Five Commitments
- When there is a gap between what I expected and what I experienced, I will believe the best.
- When other people assume the worst about you, I will come to your defense.
- If what I experience begins to erode my trust, I will come directly to you about it.
- When I’m convinced I will not be able to deliver on a promise, I will inform you ahead of time.
- When you confront me about the gaps I’ve created, I will tell you the truth.
Also remember:
- Love gives the other person the benefit of the doubt.
- Love looks for the most generous explanation for the other person’s behavior.
- Love chooses trust over suspicion.
In healthy relationships, both parties go to ridiculous lengths to believe the best.
When you can’t choose to trust, you must choose to confront. When confronting, ask for an explanation with the assumption that there’s a good one.
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. – 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 – TNIV